Friday, July 8, 2016

Police Lives Matter

In the headlines today I see key words like BLACK, WHITE AND POLICE. Just the fact that I and other see those key words testifies to the fact that the media is doing a fabulous job inciting racial tensions. I'd like to also say congratulations to you, the reader because you.... as I have become a successful part of the media game for noticing, congrats you are now a SHEEP.

We have allowed the media to seduce us with words like this to stir rage and hate in ourselves and toward others. We are being out smarted because we are too lazy to think for ourselves and now they have caused chaos in peoples lives yet again. The shootings that took place yesterday were a travesty and sadden my heart. Those officers may have been white but they had families just like you and me. Who's to say that they didn't have African American family members, Hispanic etc... So did this guy do research on who he was killing? No! He just aimed and shot them because of the color of their skin. You don't have to be white to be a racist, racism comes in all colors and creeds.

 I'm tired of hearing this day to day bullshit about that cop shot that guy cause he was black. In some cases that may be true but 9 out of 10 times it's just because they were being idiots and doing something wrong, but the media only shows you what they want you to see and not the fact that cops kill all races because of their actions,and more african american males kill each other than police in the U.S. You do not get arrested for doing nothing, you were in a bad place at bad time doing stuff you shouldn't have and you think you don't have the right to be arrested? Seriously? If I jump a fence and land on private property, if I break into a house, if I beat someone for drugs, assault a police officer, resist arrest , then I'm going to jail just like you. There are no color boundaries, it's a matter of right and wrong and no one has taught these criminals, white, black, hispanic or asian right from wrong growing up or they simply don't care. Here is a link to the 2011 statistics of police related deaths and race, clearly whites at the top of the list with 68 percent.  Department of Criminal Justice
It's time to stop blaming race as the factor when what it is , is today's society not willing to take responsibility for their actions.

In closing I would like to ask that you take a moment to pray or send healing vibes to the families of the fallen. I cannot imagine someone telling me that my husband or wife were dead because they tried to do their job. If you have family in law enforcement, hold them tight tonight because it could be your last day with them. If this keeps up we may not have anyone to help us when we are in need...then what? Who will come to our rescue? I certainly wouldn't blame them for not responding.
With that being said I want you to leave you with these key words and mull them over a bit.DON'T BE A SHEEP!

hate crime
  1. a crime motivated by racial, sexual, or other prejudice, typically one involving violence.

  1. the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.
    • prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior.

FOOTNOTE: A telemarketer called my boyfriend today posing as a Dallas Police Department representative asking for donations for the fallen officers. When we asked for a number he gave us an 877 number that seemed shady. I advise you to donate directly to the Dallas Fallen Officers Foundation . Please feel free to click the link bellow to take you directly to their website.

Sunday, July 3, 2016

It's a woman's Brave

Being divorced or being single is different when you're in your forties than it is when you're in your twenties. When you're in your twenties you're lonely and sad you want someone to hangout with, you want to party.When you're in your forties you relish the peace and solitude of being alone, you don't have to come home and cook for anyone, you don't have to answer to anyone; you can finally relax and enjoy your life and get to know yourself. In your twenties this is almost virtually impossible you still don't even know who you are and you certainly don't want to take the time to "soul search" at this age. Mostly you just think about why you were dumped or why you divorced and then quickly move on to the next new relationship without much regard to why the last one failed. I can say this because that's what I did. It wasn't until my late 30's that I was more cautious as to whom I dated. I questioned everything, watched for red flags just to make sure I didn't end up in the same situation I did ten years prior. 

Now I've found peace with myself and what I want out of my life. I found in that process; the love of my life and I am content with myself and happy with my life finally and it only took me 39 years to get here! I am more apt to take risks, not put up with anyone's shit and leave a situation if I need to because I grew to be strong. I now know that I can do it on my own, that I don't "need" a man but I know that I want the one I have.This is the most invigorating feeling a woman can have, to know she can do it all on her own and survive. We are more sure of ourselves now than we were twenty or fifty years ago, it's a woman's world now.

Eleven years ago I was scared that I couldn't make it alone, so I jumped into a marriage that wasn't right for me but seemed to benefit us both at the time. Eventually the benefits wore off like so much cheap jewelry and all that was left was a tarnished mess, a remnant , a shadow of a marriage that was hollow. We had nothing in common and for the love of God I couldn't figure out why I ever did what I did, but it was too late. Leaving that marriage was the best thing for me and him and our children, because everyone suffers not just you. I was silly thinking that if I stayed it would be better for the kids. I felt I was being selfish to want happiness, but why? Did I not deserve love, affection, appreciation? Finally it was enough and I couldn't do it anymore and now here I am. peace. Ladies,leaving a bad relationship is almost the equivalent of a death. 
Yes, there will be loneliness, sadness, anger, guilt and finally peace. There is a type of mourning for it all, but in the end me you'll be better off for it.

I talked myself out of living for too many years, but now there's no holding me back. I am only moving forward and YOU can too. Don't be afraid, be brave...go ahead...I DARE YOU. ; )